Hey Nile,
I realized I, 24F, was a lesbian about a year ago and my girlfriend, 27F, is the only woman i’ve ever had sex with. our sex drives match pretty well, and i feel super comfortable being intimate with her. but now the problem: i’ve never given her head. i want to, but every time i try to i notice how strongly she smells like pee. i don’t know if she just doesn’t wipe well enough after peeing or if it’s because she keeps her hair grown out or if this is normal, but any advice would be great. Sincerely, Better Clean than Mean Hey there, Better Clean than Mean. It's awesome that you're exploring new aspects of intimacy in your relationship, but I totally get how hygiene concerns can throw a curveball into the mix.
Hygiene is a sensitive subject, especially when it comes to intimate moments. It's essential to approach this delicately and with care. It's possible that the smell you're noticing might be due to various reasons, such as hygiene practices, hair, or even something else entirely.
One way to handle this could be having a conversation about personal hygiene as a general topic, not specifically tied to intimacy. You could express your care and concern for her well-being and see if there's a way to broach the subject gently.
Maybe suggesting showering together or incorporating it into your intimate routine could help address the issue without making her feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. Frame it as something you'd both enjoy and benefit from.
However, it's also important to remember that some natural body odors can vary from person to person and might not always indicate a hygiene issue. If it persists despite efforts to address it, it might be worth considering if there's an underlying health concern that needs attention.
Approach this with sensitivity and understanding. It's about finding a way to communicate openly without causing embarrassment or hurt feelings. Finding a solution that works for both of you is key. Good luck navigating this delicate conversation!