My husband doesn't have the best personal hygiene and I've expressed my opinion to him about it repeatedly over the past year, and nothing has changed. I feel like I'm losing my attraction to him because of this. But he cares enough to get upset if I ask if he's brushed his teeth that day but not enough to just do these things on his own. What do I do?
Sincerely,
Super Sniffer
Hey there Super Sniffer, hygiene can definitely be a sensitive topic. It's tough when something as basic as personal care becomes an issue in a relationship.
Communication is key, but it seems like your efforts to talk about this haven't quite hit the mark. Maybe it's time for a different approach. Instead of directly asking if he's brushed his teeth or addressing it as a personal flaw, try engaging in a conversation about mutual health goals.
You could share how important it is for both of you to maintain good health and hygiene, emphasizing the benefits beyond just appearance. Making it a joint effort might help him see it as something you both tackle together, rather than feeling singled out.
Also, positive reinforcement can work wonders. When he does take steps toward better hygiene, acknowledge it. It might encourage him to keep it up.
Remember, it's about finding a balance between expressing your concerns and being understanding. He might have reasons for this behavior that go deeper than what's on the surface. Patience and support could be the keys to nudging him in the right direction without causing friction.